In a world where everything is moving at breakneck speed, how do you reconnect in a way that is rejuvenating and nourishing? What are the benefits of taking time out for yourself, to engage in something that feeds your soul? How does this actually benefit your relationship?
Some of my favorite ways to do this is being in nature, journaling, making art, and reading. For my partner, Tony, he digs running, geeking out on Neuroscience, and playing brain games. We are all different. We all have different interests and desires. Connecting to these makes us even better mates, friends, relatives, etc. as we have more to give when are 'cup runneth over' as they say!
Life is about relationships. This must begin with the self in order to relate healthily to others. Creating a space in which you can safely express your emotions is critical to your emotional health and the health of your relationships. Expressing your thoughts, feelings, and emotions has a tremendous impact on how you relate to others. It is also much less risky to be vulnerable with others when we are committed to not abandoning ourselves. So how do you do this?
Journaling can be an incredibly helpful way to process feelings. I am truly able to connect with myself when I create space for this, as well as any creative endeavor. One of the benefits of connecting with yourself in these simple ways is that suppressed feelings and emotions can be released. You can gain mental clarity on any rising issue when you journal, written or visual, as it engages both your analytical or rational mind as well as the emotional. You will also have a record to review once some time has passed allowing you to gain insight and learn lessons from the event.
Connecting to your own thoughts and feelings in an intentional way frees up space for you to be more present and available for others. Think back on a problem you recently had. Were you worried? Did it preoccupy your thoughts and feelings? How present and available for your family, significant other or children were you during this time? Now, think back to when you took the time to express the worries and frustrations you had. Were your thoughts clearer afterward? Were you less worried or stressed? Were you more present to what was happening around you?
Tuning in can take some practice and sharing that with others requires safety and trust. This is where intimacy building can help. Take time to connect with your partner and share whats on your heart and mind. It helps if you can do so without expectation of any particular response. If this feels challenging for you, this is where the journaling and self-connection can help to ground you before opening up a dialogue with your partner. It's important to be gentle with yourself and let go of expectations as much as possible to actually connect. Still want help building intimacy, connection, and communication in your relationship? Come join us on October 22nd for our first couples retreat. This daylong pilot retreat will leave you with tips and tools for deepening your relationship while playing together, having fun, and getting creative! To learn more about us or the retreat please check out the rest of our website or you may apply on the registration page.
Be sure to leave us a comment with any questions or to share how you best connect to yourself as well as how this supports your relationships!
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